A few years ago, I found myself in a bathroom stall furiouslybin. I’m not sure how much my ankles ― picking away, but by the time I left the stall, the sticker looked like a wild animal had clawed it. I remember being enraged that there was no place I could go ― not even a college library’s bathroom ― where I wouldn’t be reminded I was single. Worse, I believed that as a woman with a bipolar one diagnosis, no one in their right mind would ever want to date me.
I remember receiving my diagnosis clearly; it was May 2014. I was 33. I was across from a man I’d never met before after being involuntarily hospitalized. I discovered one way to get involuntarily ized is by attempting to flee the ER, wearing only a hospital gown and men’s tube socks, and possessing the sudden belief that humans can fly.
My sister took me to the ER after Ithat I had a crucial meeting with then-President Barack Obama; we would discuss health care. I was uniquely qualified to talk about health care because I was . Who better to chat with him about the gaps in coverage?
The man, my doctor, tried to explain that Obama wasn’t coming.
“You have bipolar 1,” he said flatly. Instantly offended, I told him I was undoubtedly not bipolar; my life just sucked. My previous diagnosis had been clinical depression, and I didn’t want to accept something more severe. While hospitalized, I’d lost my job and internship, and I would soon be homeless.
He said I had taken off all my clothes in the hospital’s standard room the night before.
“Performance art,” I shrugged. I didn’t explain that I believed, at that moment, that I had to be in my birthday suit to be reborn the female Jesus Christ. I’m embarrassed to admit how long it took me to accept my six-year diagnosis. I thought my involuntary hospitalization was a one-time fluke until I started to experience symptoms again in February, triggered by the stress of winter storm Uri.
I thought, “Maybe it’s time to learn about this thing I have.” Unable to focus enough to, I listened to audiobooks. I with bipolar one experience manic phases (at least one), including psychosis and delusions. My manic episode ― during that time, I went three weeks without sleeping and believed that the hospital I was committed to was purgatory.
Because bipolar one disorder has a genetic component, I asked my mom about our family history. My grandmother, it turned out, liked to dress up like Liberace and ― without having had a single music lesson in her life ― “play” the piano. When my aunt was a teenager, she wholeheartedly believed David Cassidy was in love with her. She swore they would meet on the beach and that he drew a heart in the sand with their initials.
Dressing up in wigs and pounding on the piano sounded fun, but my aunt’s flights of fancy deeply worried me. In my research, I learned that being in love can trigger or coincide with bipolar episodes with all its euphoric goodness. So, too, can heartbreak.only added to my fear that I might never be mentally fit in a romantic relationship.